The subject
of friendship has been on my mind a lot of late. I have been noticing certain
trends that, has made me question things and people.
For those
that don’t really know me, I am an extremely shy person. It takes me an
extremely long time to make friends. However, when last year a good friend gave
me her old compy, I thought I could change this. I found an online world of
people like me with similar interests. Slowly I warmed to some awesome people.
And for the first time felt less insecure around new people. However, over time
I started to notice some odd trends.
The first
is the busier one becomes the less other hear from them. Which I find an odd
thing. You think in this day and age people could find it easy to send a simple
“Hai” to friends. Or people use this as an excuse to stop talking another
person. If you wish to stop talking either tell that person or just slowly fade
to the background.
I do know
that friendships change, grow, and at times die. But, don’t do silly things
that burn bridges and hurt the other person. Whatever happens keep it between
you and the other person. It is childish to involve other people especially
when lies are involved.
This leads
to another trend – people don’t always tell the truth. I know some people
online (especially Twitter) RP characters. This is fine as long as at the core
you are true to yourself. Nothing hurts more than to learn that a good online
friend has told you nothing but lies and misrepresent themselves. This not only
hurts the other person this can come back top haunt you.
I am not
saying tell every one every thing about you. I am saying don’t misrepresent who
you are as a person, your values, and morals. If you, like me are private, just
don’t say much personal information. Do protect yourself. Just don’t out right
lie to people.
The next
trend I find is that with the geek world some girls will end up with having
more guy than girls as friends. It is just the case of interests. With this guy
do end up with girlfriends. Then these girls ( I will call them this no matter
the age) then freak for their boyfriends have girls as friends. RELAX! Nothing
is going on than two friends talking about like interests. For majority the gal
pal is happy guy friend has found someone. Only thing I do see with this is that
girlfriend always ends up telling boyfriend to get rid of gal pals. Which is so
childish, and makes the girlfriend look insecure and pathetic.
Another
trend I have seen most is that a hand full of special caring people getting
used in one way or another. These people are genuinely caring and supportive.
They give this freely and ask nothing in return except maybe friendship. Yet
too often people like this are needed at a certain time then when not needed
just cast to the side. Most time without regards to their feelings.
Must also
have my personal say to online crushes. These I think are nothing more than a
deeper feeling towards another person that someone feels a connection to,
mostly a deep friendship. And, if someone online tells you this, don’t freak
out and stop talking or contact. Realize this is something hard for them to
tell you. Acknowledge it and respect that they find you a close friend.
On a very
personal note, I have recently found out who are my good friends are online. To
them I thank you for your friendship.
Hope you realize how much I cherish each of you and home much your
friendship has helped me to grow into a less shy person. :)
Post Script: I wrote
this over 4 months ago before I became deathly ill. Yet once I was on my road
to recovery I have noticed that this is much truer now than when I originally wrote
it.
